Coping with a sudden relocation

Pandemic-fuelled relocation

Many people are relocating by choice. The pandemic has had so many huge consequences for people across the world. For those of us living outside our passport country, closed borders and uncertainty over when we can return to our ‘home’ countries again has been a major cause of stress. This in itself has proven to be the catalyst for many people, who have re-evaluates their choice to live outside of passport country and feel the need to be with family and friends at ‘home’ again.

For other people, their relocation has not been their choice. Thanks to the worldwide economic impact of Covid-19, people find themselves without a job and have to return ‘home’ because they can no longer stay in their host country without a work visa. Losing your job adds another layer of uncertainty to relocation, and our natural response to uncertainty is often increased stress and anxiety.

Saying goodbye

Saying a proper goodbye to the places and people which have been important to us is so essential in closing that chapter of our life so we can move on to the next. However, something as simple as throwing a goodbye party has become very difficult for many people with different quarantines and different rules around social distancing in place. Now, it’s not always possible for people to say goodbye in person, or go through the usual routines and rituals of leaving, such as leaving parties and final dinners with friends. I would urge anyone who is relocating to find some way to say a proper goodbye. We’re all tired of online calls but they do provide an excellent way to get friends together when meeting in person is simply not possible. I’ve found that having a moderator on the call helps everyone have their chance to talk. Adding in some structure to a farewell call is also helpful. For instance, friends could be asked to share their favourite memory, funniest story or maybe what they will miss most about the leavers.

Dealing with feelings

At the best of times, relocation is an emotional rollercoaster (in the words of many a reality show contestant). I don’t need to point out that we are currently not in the best of time! Mixed feelings are normal and to be expected. While it’s tempting to be positive and cheerlead everyone through the move, particularly as a parent, try to resist this temptation. It’s important to embrace all feelings, especially those which are uncomfortable, so they can be processed properly.

It’s ok not to be ok

Moving country is emotionally and physically tough even under the best of circumstances. For many people, their moves now are happening in very challenging circumstances. It’s vital to tend to your emotional wellbeing and engage with strategies which will help support you and your family throughout your move.

Looking for additional support?

Please get in touch if you need some additional support during your relocation. Among other options, I offer A New Adventure: Coaching Cards for an International Move for families to talk through important elements during each relocation stage. My emotion cards are also extremely effective, particularly when used with A New Adventure cards. I also offer a more personalised approach through my coaching and hello/goodbye programme for families.